why God gave women the right to birth
***this is solely my opionion***
the longer i stay pregnant...going on 17 months, minus 3 in the middle...the more i realize why God may have given women the right to carry and birth children. and let me first start by saying that by no means, do my opinions ease my nervousness or apprehension in pregnancy or birth! i'm still totally freaked out!
but let's start out here. guys get to umm...'have fun' with their wives to create said baby, as wives do as well. they then get to either be freaked out or excited when they see the positive pregnancy test...again as do the wives. they then get to witness their significant other sick, pucking her guts out, becoming increasingly larger, having a harder and harder time moving around....the list will go on...and though most men help their wives stuff their face or move or comfort them...they really don't have any knowledge about the changes their wives bodies are making. i mean, they know, because we tell them, but they don't 'know'.
for instance, they see/hear their wives gag themselves with their toothbrush over and over again because their gag reflux is heightened, but they have no idea how frustrating it is to not be able to brush their teeth without almost throwing up. they hear their wives scream with excitement when they actually get to poop, but they don't feel the constant back up in their bowels and get no relief...they hear their wives say they are hungry and need to eat, but they don't realize the urgency around it. they don't feel the 'if i don't eat now i'm going to pass out or kill someone' feeling. they see their wives begin to 'waddle' or strain, but they don't understand why they're waddling or straining. they can't comprehend the girth they're carrying.
i think all men should wear one of those fake pregnant bellies for a week just to see what it's like. i can't tell you how hard it is to get dressed the the morning. i never thought putting panties, pants or socks on would be so difficult! i almost fall over every morning because i'm too stubborn to sit down and do it. and don't even get me started about shaving or cutting my toe nails! wowza. try picturing a whale bending over to look at his tail. it's not pretty!
so when my husband, who i love dearly and truly feel for him, told me this morning that he may have to start sleeping in another bed because he can't sleep through my snoring...oh yes, there's another pregnancy symptom, i was bummed. i understand. sleep is important...but when was the last time i got a good night sleep? i'm up every 2 hours or so...either i'm uncomfortable, or i have to pee or the baby is kicking me...and that's just the 8 hours i'm sleeping.
so, although i'll support my husbands wishes to sleep in another room. and i'll even go and clean that room up for him today in case he wants to sleep there tonight. i have to admit that i'm a bit sad. and i now see why God gave women the right to carry and birth children. i truly don't think men could handle it. and i say that with the utmost respect for all the men i know. i truly do. but you seriously have no idea what we women go through in pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding.
and in a way, i think that's cool. it reminds me that God really did know what He was doing when He created us. He did give us the right roles. He gave men, women, to love and take care of and dote upon and he gave women, men, who they can love and respect and carry and nurture their children. it's pretty cool when you think of it.
as i write this, my child is thrashing against my ribs. this is the first time i've felt this. Jorai never kicked/punched that high...once again, the pain and discomfort and frustrations we pregnant women go through is something that no man can relate to, they can only support us. and in all honesty, i am so glad that God chose women to go through this miraculous event. i feel truly blessed beyond words...even if my husband will no longer sleep with me. but, that's ok baby. i'll love you through the walls!
but let's start out here. guys get to umm...'have fun' with their wives to create said baby, as wives do as well. they then get to either be freaked out or excited when they see the positive pregnancy test...again as do the wives. they then get to witness their significant other sick, pucking her guts out, becoming increasingly larger, having a harder and harder time moving around....the list will go on...and though most men help their wives stuff their face or move or comfort them...they really don't have any knowledge about the changes their wives bodies are making. i mean, they know, because we tell them, but they don't 'know'.
for instance, they see/hear their wives gag themselves with their toothbrush over and over again because their gag reflux is heightened, but they have no idea how frustrating it is to not be able to brush their teeth without almost throwing up. they hear their wives scream with excitement when they actually get to poop, but they don't feel the constant back up in their bowels and get no relief...they hear their wives say they are hungry and need to eat, but they don't realize the urgency around it. they don't feel the 'if i don't eat now i'm going to pass out or kill someone' feeling. they see their wives begin to 'waddle' or strain, but they don't understand why they're waddling or straining. they can't comprehend the girth they're carrying.
i think all men should wear one of those fake pregnant bellies for a week just to see what it's like. i can't tell you how hard it is to get dressed the the morning. i never thought putting panties, pants or socks on would be so difficult! i almost fall over every morning because i'm too stubborn to sit down and do it. and don't even get me started about shaving or cutting my toe nails! wowza. try picturing a whale bending over to look at his tail. it's not pretty!
so when my husband, who i love dearly and truly feel for him, told me this morning that he may have to start sleeping in another bed because he can't sleep through my snoring...oh yes, there's another pregnancy symptom, i was bummed. i understand. sleep is important...but when was the last time i got a good night sleep? i'm up every 2 hours or so...either i'm uncomfortable, or i have to pee or the baby is kicking me...and that's just the 8 hours i'm sleeping.
so, although i'll support my husbands wishes to sleep in another room. and i'll even go and clean that room up for him today in case he wants to sleep there tonight. i have to admit that i'm a bit sad. and i now see why God gave women the right to carry and birth children. i truly don't think men could handle it. and i say that with the utmost respect for all the men i know. i truly do. but you seriously have no idea what we women go through in pregnancy, birth and breastfeeding.
and in a way, i think that's cool. it reminds me that God really did know what He was doing when He created us. He did give us the right roles. He gave men, women, to love and take care of and dote upon and he gave women, men, who they can love and respect and carry and nurture their children. it's pretty cool when you think of it.
as i write this, my child is thrashing against my ribs. this is the first time i've felt this. Jorai never kicked/punched that high...once again, the pain and discomfort and frustrations we pregnant women go through is something that no man can relate to, they can only support us. and in all honesty, i am so glad that God chose women to go through this miraculous event. i feel truly blessed beyond words...even if my husband will no longer sleep with me. but, that's ok baby. i'll love you through the walls!
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