hair help

i've always had a problem with making decisions about my hair. well, really, about many things, but i especially have difficulty with my hair. i've always, inwardly, wanted to look cool. i feel cool on the inside but i know my outward appearance doesn't resemble how i feel. and then another part of me always wants to be the fashionista, but i'm so far from that goal, it's funny. there's this huge part of me that wants to look pretty and put together and then there's reality, where it just doesn't happen and i end up with crazy hair and stuck in the same outfit for a week. i look at people and think 'man, i wish i looked like that!' but then a new day dawns and, well, i'm still in the same outfit and with crazy hair.

in the mere almost 4 weeks since delivering asher, it's become worse. mainly because i can't fit into anything and the few things i can fit into, i feel real uncomfortable in. and the simple fact that i don't have time to shower everyday, plays havoc on my appearance. my hairstyle isn't easy. i have to wash it, blow it dry and then flat iron it. every day. if i don't, it looks crazy. i've tried all sorts of things, but it just doesn't work. so i either have to leave the house looking like a crazy person, or stay inside. so, i'm looking for a different cut. i have 2 choices now that i've cut most of my hair off already...

1. i could go shorter; or
2. i could grow it back out

i need your help. should i cut it short? or should i grow it back out?

i've found a few cool short cuts i like. if i get them, i'll color it too...probably red and a darker color...black undertones? i don't know. right now i'm just focusing on the cut. so please help me. should i choose one of the the below cuts or wait for my locks to grow longer? would i look ok in a short cut? i hate making these decisions!!!

here are the cuts i'm thinking about...




or...this is the same cut but with different looks...this is the one i'm leaning towards right now...







please help me!!