memorial weekend fun?

steve, asher and i went to my in-laws sailing club yesterday for a picnic. when we got to the club, my in-laws had already spread the spread all over 2 tables. they had all this super yummy food plus burgers to grill. we put asher in his new swim diaper to see if he'd like a float in the water, which he didn't. i think it was too cold. so we swung a bit on the swings and let him feel the grass under his toes and then brought him back over to the group when all of a sudden a member came up to us to tell us a story.

she said that yesterday while at the club, her son came up to her to tell her there was a glassy eyed woman at the end of the dock that just seemed sad. they decided to leaver her alone even after hearing a scream before they left. the next morning, saturday, they came back to the club to see the woman's shoes still there. she decided to call the police. supposedly a women had walked away from her family the same day from a salvation army right next to the club...

all of a sudden, police and dive teams started to show up at the club. and then a family...and then there were screams and sobs and here we were sitting around a picnic table having 'fun' when a family just heard the news of their mothers death...and her body was in the water about 50 feet from us...it was all so surreal. do we leave? do we stay? do we go up and offer our condolences? what do we do?

the family was right there. not 15 feet from us. crying, talking to the cops...the divers had found the body a mere 50 feet away...she was there, right there...and we were suppose to eat and be happy? we could hear the sobs, one daughter threw up, outside her car from the grief...and here we were, sitting around a big table of food...

to top it off there were people arriving at the club to do the same thing we were doing...not knowing what happened we tried to quietly tell them the news. but they didn't seem to care much. they would talk all too loudly about the incident when the family was still present. and then the strange thing...they stayed and brought their kids out and let them swim not 50 feet from where the police were, or play in the sand box not 10 feet from the family as they talked to the cops. kids were playing as a family was crying and talking to the cops.

we were in this sticky situation of...do we now leave? do we quietly pack our things and leave, or do we quietly sit here and wait...but these people knew before they unloaded themselves and their belongings...they knew before they spread out their picnic tablecloth...they knew before letting their children out...

after the family left they brought the body out. they brought her down the dock and through the clubs property. she was wheeled right by us, past 2 little boys playing...one boy was obviously affected. why did the parent even allow this? if asher was older there would be no way we would have stayed. i felt bad staying already. and why didn't the cops close off the club anyway? why didn't they make it a crime scene?

to top it off, right after they removed the body and the police left, parents took their kids out to the dock and swam right where they just pulled a dead women out of the water. the whole thing was creepy and sad and horrible.

i can't stop thinking about the family. how horrible they must feel. how sad. it was just so sad. and here we were celebrating life as one family grieved death.

Comments

ShannaKay said…
wow!!! i probably wouldnt know what to do either........wow.

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