website in the works
I've decided to really, truly make a website full of information for families grieving through infant loss. I'm not sure how soon it'll be up, as I haven't even fully nailed down a web developer, but it's going to happen. I have a ton of info and sites I want to share, but I need your help too.
If you have lost a child could you share with me:
If you have lost a child could you share with me:
- what some your regrets are
- what organization you used that helped you
- what advice you would give to someone
- what really helped you that friends or family members did
- what things really hurt you that friends or family members did or didn't do
- any advice you would give someone else going through this
- what is the number one thing you wish you knew to help your family member/friend
Comments
--I regret not getting pictures of Charlie with any of his grandparents or uncles and aunties.
# what organization you used that helped you
---SHARE
# what advice you would give to someone
-- take lots of pictures, even if you don't think you want them.. you may further down the road. Get footprints and handprints and a lock of hair.
# what really helped you that friends or family members did
--made food. We didn't want to eat, but when we did, it was nice to have ready-made meals to fix.
# what things really hurt you that friends or family members did or didn't do
--Not including my child, or not talking about him because they thought it would hurt my feelings. I love talking about my son's life and want him included in the "count" of how many grandchildren, etc.
# any advice you would give someone else going through this
--find a good grief counselor. Although Corey and I only went a few times, it felt good to have our feelings validated as being normal instead of feeling out of control.
"I wish I would have taken more pictures, and more pictures of the baby with other family members."
One thing I have heard most from people who have had this type of horrible loss: having friendscome and sit, to be there during and after the birth...not saying anything, just being there...meant so much...kind of like the old Jewish tradition of sitting Shiva